What is your biggest pet peeve in your wedding planning?
Sunday, January 3rd, 2010 at
2:01 pm
Esma asked:
What is REALLY bugging you while you’re planning your wedding? A nagging mother? An unhelpful fiance? A dress that you ordered in white and ended up getting seven of them in red?
What is REALLY bugging you while you’re planning your wedding? A nagging mother? An unhelpful fiance? A dress that you ordered in white and ended up getting seven of them in red?
This is your chance to vent! Whatever is bugging you, let me know…I’m curious to see what’s bugging people!
P.S. Mine is “But you have to invite this person, even if you don’t know/like them.”
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my biggest pet peeve when I was planning my wedding (happily married for a year and a half now) was my MOTHER IN LAW!!!!!
yikes… this lady did not want to let go of her son!! (still doesn’t but it’s getting better)
A dumb *** Brides Maid!
wondering if it will all work out and 10 years down the road will she decide she is bored and bang the Schwan guy when he is delivering your ice cream, and then she leaves you with a huge debt and you have to start over in your mid 30’s trying to save money enough to retire before Uncle Sam screws the pooch and throws social security out the window and you have to work at walmart till you are 100,
guest list or in other words everything. I’m not married and might never get married but everything about my weddding would annoy me.
BIGGEST pet peeve… Being told what to do, who to bring, what colors in flowers to choose, what color dress to wear, that sort of thing. It’s your wedding and you only go through with it once, so tell ‘em to shut up and do things YOUR way!
I hated that my fiance would say he didn’t care about something and when I assumed he wouldn’t care, he’d drop the goold old “I don’t like that”. I made a rule that unless he wanted to help me, if I suggested something he didn’t like, he had to come up with two alternatives.
We ended up learning to negotiate pretty well and we had a beautiful wedding in the end.
People who bring their kids. Weddings aren’t for kids!
People who bring dates (someone they recently started seeing). Weddings are not for dates!
Mother in law that can’t respect that we want a simple wedding, that we are paying for.
Photographers that can’t ever seem to make it to our appointments on time then offer no apologies.
Bridesmaids who you have to call a million times to get them to get alterations done three weeks before the wedding.
Other than that, everything’s going smoothly.
My wedding planning went horribly! We mistakenly prepaid for the pictures and didn’t get them until almost a year after the wedding! We even threatened to sue! And they still didn’t give us any discounts or free pictures! Also we had my ring custom-made and that was a mistake, they said it would take less than two weeks and it took about six months!!! Also I didn’t even get the wedding band until a few months after I was married! And not to mention the ring didn’t even look like the one I had the picture of! But I was so annoyed it had taken so long I didn’t want to have to wait another six months for them to get it right. It’s a pretty ring but boy was that major frustrating!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Too much butting in is my pet peeve.Being helpful is one thing but butting in is another. Suddenly, everyone is a professional wedding planner. Go figure!!! When planning my first wedding, my fiance’s mom told us who to invite so that person wouldn’t be offended. Come to find out, she & my future f-in-law, weren’t even on speaking terms with most of these people. Their butting in gave me a good indication what it’d be like after we were married & I was right on the money.
Mine is probably having to wait so long for it all to come together. I like to get a task and work on it until its completed. With having a year or so to plan, it’s too drawn out for my taste. I wish we could get married this weekend, even if that isn’t realistic, I still wish I could. I can’t stop thinking about all the minute details even though they’re meaningless, and I have so much time!
Mine was that my sister-in-law wore white to my wedding. Its like she didnt on purpose and I wouldnt doubt if she did.
My family & his family are being great. However, friends and co-workers are being annoying! I try not to talk about it at work, but co-workers are forever bringing it up. They offer suggestions without me asking them. They are so nosy! I know people are just trying to help, so I try not to get annoyed.
I have two biggest pet peevs my maid of honor backed out because she didn’t like the color of the dress (black btw). And two my future mother-in-law keeps saying well I guess thats ok but if I had it to do it would be done this way….
Its not their day its mine and my fience’s wedding day. If you don’t like the color of a dress **** it up its only one day, or if you don’t like how things are done keep your big mouth shut!!!!!
Thanks I needed that.
1. People telling others that they NEED to invite someone they don’t even know or like just because their MIL or MOB wants them there.
2. People saying that gifts are requirements whether you can go or not (I am not expecting or requiring gifts from anyone on our guest list).
3. Flower girls/Ring bearers MUST be under age 10.
4. You can’t have more than one shower (even though the bride has NOTHING to do with the planning! and they could be in two different places with two different people coordinating it!!)
5. People who don’t RSVP on time.
I have a lot of pet peeves, but those are the main ones. I’m sure I’ll come up with more. I’m opposed to a lot of “traditions” only because people think that it must be done that way or else. So a lot of the traditions are being thrown out and the ones my groom and I like are staying in (like the garter/bouquet throw, some dances, etc).
It bugs me when I contact people (reception sites, officiants, caterers, etc) and they never bother answering their e-mail.
I then need to call them (from NY to Oregon) and its a totally unnecessary expense.
Everyone keeps telling me it’s MY special day so I should do things the way I want. However when I share my ideas of how I want things, those same people are telling why I can’t or shouldn’t do it that way. I’m only a couple weeks into this engagement/wedding planning and I’m already tempted to throw in the towel!
My fiance and I are paying for 95% of our wedding so it gets a little annoying when my future mother-in-law keeps telling us about people she would like to have invited (people that my fiance and I don’t even know). Then I try to tell my fiance that we aren’t going to have enough money for everything so we will have to cut the guest list and he freaks out on me.
I also got silk bouquets because I absolutely fell in love with the design of them and they match my centerpieces perfectly and everyone gives me a look like “You got silk flowers?” I like them and they will last forever.
My biggest pet peeve though is I am having my bridesmaids wear black dresses but they can pick their own style. Since when do stores like Boston Store, Macy’s, etc. not carry any simple black evening gown dresses anymore? All of them are these short little high-schooler dresses. So I will probably have to wait until just before my wedding for the girls to get their dresses because now every dress is PINK!!!
Love this question! I really have enjoyed reading everyone’s pet peeves..a lot of which I can identify with. My biggest pet peeve, without question, is people who refuse to RSVP (on time or even at all!). My bridesmaids have put so much effort and time into planning a beautiful shower for me, and out of 68 people who were invited, we have over 30 who haven’t called to say yes or no. The RSVP cut off date was today, so now they are stuck calling people to find out if they are coming or not. How hard is it to RSVP I ask you?? Do people not understand that we need a number for the caterer? What really has a bee in my bonnet is the people who have said “Well, she should KNOW I’m coming” or “I told so and so to tell the girls I am coming.” Of course, my bridesmaids were never told a thing. Drives me absolutely insane. I hope I don’t get a repeat of this when the wedding RSVP’s come due.
People who say weddings aren’t for children. Why would anyone want to exclude children from such a sacred, family oriented event? I can see excluding them from the reception, but why from the wedding? My fiance has a huge family with a ton of kids and they’re ALL invited. Even to the reception! We’ll just keep them away from the punch bowl….