Comments on: What is your biggest pet peeve in your wedding planning?

By: Alison M

Alison M — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 07:59:47 +0000

People who say weddings aren’t for children. Why would anyone want to exclude children from such a sacred, family oriented event? I can see excluding them from the reception, but why from the wedding? My fiance has a huge family with a ton of kids and they’re ALL invited. Even to the reception! We’ll just keep them away from the punch bowl….

By: MelB

MelB — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 04:42:58 +0000

Love this question! I really have enjoyed reading everyone’s pet peeves..a lot of which I can identify with. My biggest pet peeve, without question, is people who refuse to RSVP (on time or even at all!). My bridesmaids have put so much effort and time into planning a beautiful shower for me, and out of 68 people who were invited, we have over 30 who haven’t called to say yes or no. The RSVP cut off date was today, so now they are stuck calling people to find out if they are coming or not. How hard is it to RSVP I ask you?? Do people not understand that we need a number for the caterer? What really has a bee in my bonnet is the people who have said “Well, she should KNOW I’m coming” or “I told so and so to tell the girls I am coming.” Of course, my bridesmaids were never told a thing. Drives me absolutely insane. I hope I don’t get a repeat of this when the wedding RSVP’s come due.

By: kjl_jvp

kjl_jvp — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 05:15:59 +0000

My fiance and I are paying for 95% of our wedding so it gets a little annoying when my future mother-in-law keeps telling us about people she would like to have invited (people that my fiance and I don’t even know). Then I try to tell my fiance that we aren’t going to have enough money for everything so we will have to cut the guest list and he freaks out on me.

I also got silk bouquets because I absolutely fell in love with the design of them and they match my centerpieces perfectly and everyone gives me a look like “You got silk flowers?” I like them and they will last forever.

My biggest pet peeve though is I am having my bridesmaids wear black dresses but they can pick their own style. Since when do stores like Boston Store, Macy’s, etc. not carry any simple black evening gown dresses anymore? All of them are these short little high-schooler dresses. So I will probably have to wait until just before my wedding for the girls to get their dresses because now every dress is PINK!!!

By: cre8ivone66

cre8ivone66 — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 10:47:10 +0000

Everyone keeps telling me it’s MY special day so I should do things the way I want. However when I share my ideas of how I want things, those same people are telling why I can’t or shouldn’t do it that way. I’m only a couple weeks into this engagement/wedding planning and I’m already tempted to throw in the towel!

By: Maria S

Maria S — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 01:03:38 +0000

It bugs me when I contact people (reception sites, officiants, caterers, etc) and they never bother answering their e-mail.

I then need to call them (from NY to Oregon) and its a totally unnecessary expense.

By: Terri

Terri — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 05:25:19 +0000

1. People telling others that they NEED to invite someone they don’t even know or like just because their MIL or MOB wants them there.
2. People saying that gifts are requirements whether you can go or not (I am not expecting or requiring gifts from anyone on our guest list).
3. Flower girls/Ring bearers MUST be under age 10.
4. You can’t have more than one shower (even though the bride has NOTHING to do with the planning! and they could be in two different places with two different people coordinating it!!)
5. People who don’t RSVP on time.

I have a lot of pet peeves, but those are the main ones. I’m sure I’ll come up with more. I’m opposed to a lot of “traditions” only because people think that it must be done that way or else. So a lot of the traditions are being thrown out and the ones my groom and I like are staying in (like the garter/bouquet throw, some dances, etc).

By: mhireangel

mhireangel — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 02:35:35 +0000

I have two biggest pet peevs my maid of honor backed out because she didn’t like the color of the dress (black btw). And two my future mother-in-law keeps saying well I guess thats ok but if I had it to do it would be done this way….

Its not their day its mine and my fience’s wedding day. If you don’t like the color of a dress **** it up its only one day, or if you don’t like how things are done keep your big mouth shut!!!!!

Thanks I needed that.

By: duritzgirl4

duritzgirl4 — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 16:08:48 +0000

My family & his family are being great. However, friends and co-workers are being annoying! I try not to talk about it at work, but co-workers are forever bringing it up. They offer suggestions without me asking them. They are so nosy! I know people are just trying to help, so I try not to get annoyed.

By: MariChelita

MariChelita — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 06:31:29 +0000

Mine was that my sister-in-law wore white to my wedding. Its like she didnt on purpose and I wouldnt doubt if she did.

By: melouofs

melouofs — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 00:55:45 +0000

Mine is probably having to wait so long for it all to come together. I like to get a task and work on it until its completed. With having a year or so to plan, it’s too drawn out for my taste. I wish we could get married this weekend, even if that isn’t realistic, I still wish I could. I can’t stop thinking about all the minute details even though they’re meaningless, and I have so much time!