Is it okay to find wedding vows you can relate to online and use them?
Monday, June 29th, 2009 at
12:18 pm
KnocKout asked:
Our wedding is Thursday and we were going to not do our own wedding vows. However I found one online that I can really relate to and I’d like to use it. Do you think thats a bad idea?
Our wedding is Thursday and we were going to not do our own wedding vows. However I found one online that I can really relate to and I’d like to use it. Do you think thats a bad idea?
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It’s fine, as long as it isn’t copyrighted. Why not drop a line to the person who runs the site where you saw them and ask if it’s okay to use ‘em?
why not, its your day, do what you want,andthen just be happy
Not bad if you feel that way and mean it when you say it.
well do you think he would get mad that you didnt write them.
if he wouldnt and you can relate to them go for it.
but if he is spending his time writeing them.
you should do the same.
it is suppose to come from the heart. but then again if you are not that poetic and feel you found something that relates like you said, go ahead, what really counts is the “i do ” part.
Of course it is ok. You can alter the online ones a little to better suit you and your fiance, or you can leave them like they are. As long as it expresses how you truly feel, then it is 100% acceptable.
No, why would it be on line if not for someone else to relate to it. Use it. Happy wedding.
Sure it is,(ok I mean) what ever works best for you & makes the both of you happy. Congradulations!
I would personalize it. Figure out what it is that you like about it…the format, the details, specific phrases and try to re-create it, so that you and your partner can always feel like they were your own words. Congrats!
thats no problem so long as the vicar or such like agrees to let you use your chosen vows goodluck.
Ask your partner if he minds. If he doesn’t, enjoy it!
not really, just as long as you really mean what you say. no one will find out
although if you can, change a few things to make them more personal.
I would take some ideas from that, but you still should make your own. Would you want your husband saying vows he found off the internet? I would want something from the heart, even if it didnt sound as good.
Go for it! (And for the record, it doesn’t matter if it’s copyrighted – you’re allowed to SAY things that are copyrighted, you just can’t publish or print them without acknowledgement.)
That’s not a bad idea, but if you can, use your own words.
you should try to alter them at least a little to “make them your own”.
gl!
cheers!
I don’t see a problem as long as its okay with the officant.
Girl as long as you make sound like YOU! wrote it…don’t use some words that noone would ever hear come out your mouth but also keep it classy!!!
Go for it! You need to do what you like best!
I think that if you use it as a frame work and tailor it to your relationship that’s fine. Just make it personal.
Try to tweak it a little bit so it is your own, but you can use it as a guideline. Your vows should come from your own heart, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have a little help. Good luck!
as long as he knows so that he has time to put something together, otherwise i would make it a little more personal and use it as a toast instead
i think it should come from your heart. even if you found something you can relate to, you didn’t write it.
As a wedding minister, I encourage couples to write their own vows. Most don’t. Some that say they will, try, find it hard and give up. But guests do like to hear the couple. That’s why they came to the wedding – to see and hear the couple. You can find other vows and let them be a general guide.
More free help below for ideas on how to write sensational vows, and some real-life examples of vows that couples have written in ceremonies I have performed. You can even add your own.
You bet! Most vows that are on line are not copy written, so there is nothing to worry about there. If you happen to find one that fits, sort of and another that could work…sort of, then do the cut and paste! Many of my brides do just that, I have a lot of ceremonies and vows on my site. You are welcome to take a look and use what you like. Best wishes! Chaplain Debby
You will have to check with the person marrying you (for example in the UK some registry offices do not allow you to use anything other than the legal vows) I know some other places are more flexible, so give them a call and ask them.
Yes, just don’t make it publicly known that that’s what you did…and make appropriate changes where necessary.