Why do people these days take their wedding vows so lightly these days?
Wednesday, May 20th, 2009 at
2:49 pm
J3sus_Fr3ak777 asked:
Why do they say “for better or worse” at the altar but then turn around and file for divorce the second things start to get a little worse?
Why do they say “for better or worse” at the altar but then turn around and file for divorce the second things start to get a little worse?
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I totally agree with you, its like a trend or something. I think, even though it is sad to say, that people are just getting dumber and lazier. Dumb to rush into it, and to lazy to try to stick it through.
Because the ***** always gets fat.
We wrote our own vows and we hold true to them. I don’t take them lightly and neither does my husband. Sad that so many do though.
because they don’t understand the true meaning of marriage.
Because marriage vows are just a tradition for a lot of people now, nothing to take TOO seriously. (Unfortunately.)
This is a very “me” oriented society. That’s why you see so many people saying, “You have to do what’s right for YOU.” Well in some cases that’s true, but at some point you have to give up the sense of entitlement and realize life is not a bed of roses all the time.
cause if you listen close most people say “as long as our love shall last” TRANSLATION “til it aint fun no more”
well my husband cheated on me when i was 8months pregnant and when i went out of town for my baby shower he had the woman at our house… so should i stay? you tell me?
because back then women would put up with a lot of **** and know women are more educated and independent and wont tolerate their husbands infidelity, physical/verbal abuse ect.
Marriage means commitment and many do not want to work at it or for it. They take the easy way out. If things are not on a silver platter, they quit. They do not understand marriage is not easy you have to work at it. and things can and will get better with time. Nobody is perfect and no marriage is perfect and most do not understand that.
I guess they didn’t pick the right mate.So they feel as if it don’t apply.
There are to many temptations today that cause relationship to deplete. Our world today is doomed. Watch the news and see ever thing that is starting to happen it will not stop only get worse and worse.
I think we live in a very disposable society. TV goes bad, buy a new one; car breaks down, buy a new one; boss yells at you, get a new job……..Maybe, because I came from divorced parents; I was determined to make mine work. People do not realize the marriage is much harder than just being in love. It takes work, sacrifice, planning! They have unrealistic expectations of happily ever afters, or all sex and fun, playing house…..they have few role models. Just because someone gives you a twinge down below, doesn’t mean you should marry them.
You reap what you sew. People don’t choose wisely and just get married for the sake of being married. Either to young or too fast.
Many do not understand with marriages they have to work together to sustain it. I took my marriage vows very seriously when i exchanged my vows with my husband.
I also think they forget that marriages have its ups and downs, good times and bad times and merely just give up without trying their all even if it means to going to the unimaginable counseling sessions.
There are many factors to why people take their wedding vows lightly. But i am a traditionally lady..some may say old fashioned and them vows i have engraved into my marriage approach when striving to make things work.
Well because to some, they are just words they never took seriously in the beginning. Real life kicks in before long and if you don’t go into it realistically I would say one becomes pretty disillusioned very quickly.
There are certainly times a divorce is the answer, but way too many think it is the first option. I think ones spouse needs to know from day one what the “unforgivables” in a marriage are to each other. For example, not that he would but my husband has known for the 20 plus years we have been together that if he were to ever hit me (not that he would) that I have said that would knock all of the love right out of me as well. Same w/ cheating. I couldn’t ever forgive it. Then again, if a couple is taking their vows seriously in the first place, neither of those would ever happen and the “worse” wouldn’t be so bad. Even after all of our years together, I don’t think we are open books to one another, but we each know that there is a stick that can break the camels back. It’s an old saying in case you are very young or have never heard relatives older than you say it. Too many marry w/o knowing the most important thing there are to know about one another.
I know, it’s very sad.
Some of the frivolous reasons that people get divorced for now really bother me. I’ve seen people in this section say they’re getting a divorce because their husband doesn’t make enough money or their wife doesn’t want sex as much as them, or their spouse doesn’t look the way he/she did 30 years ago (well duh!!!).
The worst of all are the people who say, “I just got bored with them” or “I felt like I needed a change”. I mean what are they, a pair of shoes?
If you wouldn’t throw your children out of the house because they didn’t do their chores, ate too much junk food or you thought you could find a better child somewhere, then why do that to your spouse?